By the establishment of continence energy is gained. – Patanjali Yoga Sutras.
The chaste brain has tremendous energy and gigantic will-power. Without chastity, there can be no spiritual strength. Continence gives wonderful control over mankind. The spiritual leader of men have been continent, and this is what gave them power. Therefore, the Yogi must be continent. – Swami Vivekananda
It’s rare privilege to have human body
Truly does Shankara say that human birth is very rare indeed. The human form is the highest, and man the greatest being, because in that form alone lies his greatest and being and best chance to attain salvation-to attain knowledge. All other creatures, be they gods or angels, have to come down to this world and attain salvation through a human body. This is a rare privilege-this human life. And such a privilege we are foolishly abusing. Without appreciating the value of such a privilege, we are bringing down untold miseries on ourselves by our evil actions. Can there be a greater irony of fate? Can there be a greater fool than one who, getting such a rare chance, busies himself with worldly things and aspires not after knowledge.
Why all these headaches?
Far from striving for knowledge, we are on the contrary getting more and more steeped in ignorance. What is the reason? Man, who was almost free from diseases, who used to do whatever he willed, who used to sing: "I have no fear of death etc.," and was thoroughly convinced of it-why is he today beset with a thousand fears, worried by distracting thoughts, and sinking in the abysmal ocean of discontent! What is the reason? It is all due to lack of continence. Time was when a child could by his reply, pregnant with wisdom, strike dumb his enquirer, an intellectual giant; when children like Nachiketa and sages like Shukadeva were born. Why has such a society been brought to such a pass? It is because we have lost that ancient fire, that ancient force in us, due to lack continence. Without continence, nothing great can be achieved.
What is Brahmacharya
What is Brahmacharya or continence? It is the conservation of the sexual energy. In all spheres of life, whether spiritual or material, whether pertaining to this world or the other, this conservation of the sexual energy is absolutely necessary, if success is to be attained. Without absolute continence, you can neither have perfect health, nor be able to do good to others, or attain realization. The famous Dr. Nichols says, “The suspension of the use of generative organ is attended with, a notable increase of bodily and mental vigour and spiritual life”. Therefore there is no hope of success in any sphere of life, whether material or spiritual, unless man maintains absolute continence. Sri Ramakrishna used to say, "When a man succeeds in the conservation of his sexual energy, his intellect, reflects the image of Brahman, even as a glass gives a perfect image when its back is painted with mercury solution. The man who carries this image of Brahman in his heart is able to accomplish everything—he will succeed wonderfully in whatever action he engages himself".
The dictionary meaning of the word Brahmacharya is that Ashrama or stage of life, which a man undertakes for the study of Brahman, of the Vedas. The Vedas are generally studied in boyhood, so the first of the four Ashrams or stages of life is called the Brahmacharya Ashrama. The taking to this Ashrama is obligatory on all, specially, for the boys from noble families. Why it is obligatory? Because all the great and noble qualities of character are cultivated and easily acquired in this period of life. Now-a-days it has become a fashion, so to say, in many countries to impart vocational education to children. No attention is paid to the improvement of their moral side, let alone the spiritual. In former days, however, this was not the custom with us. The primary attention was given to the building up of character; next came the imparting of spiritual education; and last of all, some used to impart vocational training also. Then every one knew that character and knowledge were things that were needed most, and that money and all other things would come of themselves to one who possessed these two. Character and knowledge are not subservient to money; the truth lies the other way about.
Foundation for future life
This Ashrama or stage of life is obligatory because of the fact that noble qualities are cultured in this period. Manu says, "In order to increase the force of his character, a Brahmachari, living in the house of his Guru or preceptor and having perfect control over his passions should duly practise these (viz. serving the preceptor, repetition of mystic syllables, austerities, non-injury, forbearance etc.)". This stage of life is the very basis of all other stages of life. The other stages viz. the married life, the life of a recluse, and that of the sannyasin — all these stages of life wholly and fully depend on this period of Brahmacharya. Just as a building, though large and beautiful is unstable if it is built on a shifting ground, even so no duties of any stage of life can be performed with any degree of success if this period of Brahmacharya has not been fully utilized— nay, one is not even thought fit to enter any other stage of life.
It’s a power
Continence is such a great power, so noble, so necessary for all, that it should not be confined only to the first stage of life. It is wrong to think that it should be practiced only in boyhood. Its function is not finished with the mere laying out of the foundation stone of life; it is not ended with the climbing of the first step of the ladder of life but it does function throughout life. Without Brahmacharya, it is impossible—to built one's character even as it is impossible to raise a building without mortar. Again, just as a particular part of a building totters where the strength of mortar is lost or weakened, so also that part of our life is exposed to dangers wherein the strength of Brahmacharya or continence is lacking. The qualities that are practiced in the first stage of life are, all of them, equally necessary in all other stages of life. Even in the householder's life, continence is of great importance, not to speak of its necessity in the other three stages.
It is not for the brutes but for the Pure in heart
Without Brahmacharya, it is absolutely impossible to lead a householder's life according to the injunctions of the scriptures. Without self-control, householders can never be true to their ideals. Sri Ramakrishna used to say to all, not excepting the householders, "Make the knowledge of oneness your own first and then do your work;" "Take firm hold of the post, i.e. God, and then go on whirling;" "Keep the greater part of your mind fixed on God and with rest attend to your ordinary rounds of duty". With these and many other beautiful similes, he used to teach householders how they should lead their Lives. If one is to live as a householder up to these instructions, the first thing that is necessary is Brahmacharya. First of all, control over the senses is required. The power of curbing, at will, the outward tendencies are to be acquired first. In one word, he must be perfectly self-controlled. It is for this reason that some speak of the householder's life as the greatest stage of life. It is indeed a very pure Ashrama. It is not for brutes but for the purest in heart, for the perfectly continent. For the human brutes the Lord has not prescribed any Ashrama. In no scripture can it be found that in the householder's life one can give free reins to one' passions. Just imagine for a moment how pure is that Ashrama where saints and monks and even the Lord Himself, come to be born. What great caution one must exercise here! There can be no welfare without Brahmacharya, he may be a student, a householder, a recluse in the forest, or an itinerant monk; neither can national welfare come without it; nor will the world know of peace.
Wherefrom it came
From India, this idea of Brahmacharya spread to Egypt among the Neo-Platonists and to Greece among the Pythagoreans, and more or less to many other countries of Europe, in later days and recently to America through Vivekananda. It was again from India that this idea was broadcasted to various countries of Asia. The Persians took it from India. Then the Buddhist preachers carried it far and wide. The Essenes took it from the Buddhists; and the Christians partly from the Neo-Platonists and partly from the Essenes. These Christians, in their turn, spread it in many other countries. It is seen that in all those countries, where this idea of Brahmacharya has gone-there have arisen many great men. And no men have done greater service to their countries and to the world at large than these men of continence. So, I say that those who want to do any real good to themselves or to their country, should practise Brahmacharya irrespective of the stage of life they might be in.
Not only religious men
One should not think that Brahmacharya is to be observed only by the pious; it is equally efficacious to those who do not care for religion, who do not believe in God or transmigration of the soul or in the Vedas. Because "the six treasures ", as they are called, viz. the control of the senses and the mind, forbearance, abstinence, faith, and mental concentration, all of which are included within Brahmacharya- are of the highest value to those who want their own good and that of their country, be they materialists or unbelievers in salvation or in the hereafter. Those among the materialists who are good and great have a very high regard for these "six treasures". Those who do not possess one or other of these "six treasures" can never achieve anything really great. These are indeed six treasures. What do they care for in the world, who have control over their passions and their mind? He is really poor, a beggar, who does not possess these six treasures even though he may be a mighty emperor.
Desirelessness makes you fearless and blissful
A moneyed or propertied man passes his days in fear or anxious thoughts, but the possessor of these six virtues is greater than monarchs, is even worshipped by the gods. He is filled with bliss, and contentment to overflowing. Out of the fullness of these "six", earned by him, he can freely give to others. What can give more joy than this? In times of danger the rich flee for their lives leaving their friends and relatives to their fate, whereas those who are rich in these six superior merits pass their days without the least trace of fear—nay, they encourage and help others. Those who possess Brahmacharya are real lovers of the humanity. Blessed indeed are they. We too see it often, before our very eyes how weak, chicken-hearted, and narrow-minded are those who are wicked and slaves to their passions, and how gloomy and miserable are their lives. And how forceful, vigorous, courageous, and blissful again are the lives of those who are virtuous and have brought the senses under control.
It’s positive not negative
Some apprehend that if one is to lead to celibate life; one will be prone to many diseases. ": It is wrong. Dr. Nichols says " It is a medical—a physiological fact that the best blood in the body goes to form the lements of reproduction, in both sexes. In a pure and orderly life the matter is absorbed. It goes back into the circulation, ready to form the finest brain, nerve, and muscular tissue. This life of man, carried back and diffused through his system, makes him manly, strong, brave, and heroic. If wasted, it leaves him effeminate, weak, and irresolute, intellectually and physically debilitated, and a prey to sexual irritation, disordered function, morbid sensation, disordered muscular movement, a wretched nervous system, epilepsy, insanity, and death." In the Jnana-Sankalini Tantra, Shiva says, "Torturing the body is no austerity-Brahmacharya is the best austerity. A man of unbroken continence is no more man but a god".
What is the use?
Sri Ramakrishna used to say, "Whoever can give up the sex idea, can spurn at the world". He who has given up the sense enjoyments, the outgoing tendencies of whose mind have been stopped, know for certain that God is not far away from such a heart, His shadow has already fallen there, He can no longer keep Himself away from such a devotee who cares not, for anything else. Then he feels an ecstatic joy in every pore of his body. So intense is the joy that caught in it he loses all outward consciousness. He goes into trance and enjoys this ineffable joy in one continuous stream of consciousness. If that highest bliss is to be attained at enjoyed without any break, the desire for the fleeting pleasures of sense-objects which ultimately lead man to terrible miseries should be mercilessly eschewed-not that kind of hypocritical renunciation which lasts for a day or two but the wholesale uprooting of even the last vestige of such desires. If anyone succeeds in doing this, He will feel that what he was so long enjoying was but an infinitesimal part that ocean of bliss filtering in through one other of the sense-organs, and that now through very cell of his body he is enjoying this infinite bliss –that this flesh-and-blood body has been changed and transfigured into something divine to be a worthy receptacle for the divine Bliss. Can perversity go any further than this foregoing this infinite Bliss for petty sense-enjoyments.
How to conquer: a positive outlook
The only way to conquer lust is to lookup all women as our own mother, as images of the Divine Mother. Just as one is filled with devotion and prompted to worship when one sees an image of the Divine Mother, so should one be filled with devotion, be promoted to worship when one sees a woman. Never should we allow the idea of woman as sexual object to rise in our minds. To know a woman as woman is to open the gateway to hell, while to know her as the Divine Mother is the way to salvation. We have to change the angle of vision. If we do so, we shall be free from the fear of temptation.
Seek the great and grand only
We have been born again and again, but what have we done to raise ourselves, to become divine? We have run again and again after these sense-enjoyments and suffered untold miseries. But never too late to mend. A moment's sincere resignation of oneself and everything one possesses at the feet of the Lord is quite sufficient, to ensure one's Liberation. Yes, it must be sincere. This single act will revolutionize one's whole outlook on life. One will no longer see men and women but divinities on this very earth. The hellish idea of sex and all sense of worldly enjoyments will appear stale or vanish altogether, and he finds joy infinitely superior in blessedness. The world as it is, is full of misery; but it lies within the power of each man and woman to transform it into all-bliss. Every man is God, every woman is none else but the Divine Mother. Change thus your present outlook on life; and the kingdom of Heaven is now and here. Brahmacharya is at once the means and the goal of life!