These days everything has become like an open free market of sex, has it not? At the end of the day it may seem that you have not done any trading in sex, but this is not so. The inner sexual look is trading for sure. It happens without your awareness. This inner sexual trade of twelve or fourteen transactions has happened just by seeing them. This would not happen if our Gnan awareness were present. You will see the pure Soul within a woman passing by, but how can others see that?
If we’ve gone to somebody’s wedding, do you not see a lot of attractive human beings of both sexes? You not have made about a hundred sexual trades without your knowledge. That is how it is all. It is not your fault. This happens to all the human beings. They are drawn to anything attractive. It goes for both, women and men. A transaction is made as soon as they see anything attractive.
It is possible to eradicate these sexual impulses and transactions with the right intellect, even in the absence of Gnan. I had done so with my intellect. People remain rampant in sexuality because of lack of right intellect.
 The Horrors Of Illicit Sex
If you are living a married life, you may indulge in sex that is rightfully yours and never even think of that which is not yours, because the consequences of illicit sex are very grave. And if you have renounced sex then you should never look towards anything sexual. It is inhuman to take what is not rightfully yours, to wish for what is not rightfully yours and to wish for sex that is not rightfully yours. Should there not be a line of demarcation between what is rightfully yours and what is not? You should never cross that line. Still, people have crossed that line, have they not? This is called beastliness. There is no problem in enjoying what is rightfully yours.
Questioner: Which tendency is that which drags one to enjoy sex which is not rightfully his or hers?
Dadashri: The intent of deceit and theft.
By disregarding what is rightfully yours, if sexual activity occurs with another woman, you will have to take birth wherever that woman goes. If she goes to a lower life form, you too will have to go there with her. These days, this happens everywhere. Have you any idea where your next birth will be?’ People who have entered into sexual interactions that are not rightfully theirs will have to suffer painful miseries. Even their daughters would become characterless. The rule is that the person with whom you have interacted sexually that was not rightfully yours will, in lives to come, become your mother or your daughter.
Even the Lord allows sex with your wife, not with anyone else. If He were to refuse even this then he would be guilty. If repentance is done for all illicit sex, then also one can be freed. But these people are enjoying with gusto all forms of sexuality what is not rightfully theirs and that is why they bind a very strong knot of many many lives suffering.
Illicit sex is a violation of all the five major vows given by the Lord. In that, you commit himsa (violence), you tell lies, and you openly stealing. It is a day light robbery. Then, abrahmacharya is definitely there and the fifth violation is parigraha (possession). Abrahmacharya is the biggest parigraha. The Lord says that, there is liberation for the one who indulges in rightful sex but there is no liberation for the one who indulges in illicit sex.
These people do not understand much. They are like a stray animal that is always looking for food ant tries to get it from wherever it can. They will look for sex from where ever they can get it. Are you familiar with buffalos and it’s relatives? They would clean up anybody’s farm.
There are very few people who have an understanding of the importance of brahmacharya. As long as they have not tasted illicit sex they are relatively safe. As soon as they taste it, they go wild. This does not suit us. Our Hindustan has such spiritually developed people. We are all here for liberation.
Illicit abrahmacharya is such that a wife or a mistress of one’s in this life birth may become his mother or his daughter in his next life. Such are the dangers of this sexual world. That is why wise men practiced brahmacharya and got out of it by attaining liberation.